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For those of you who are single, what do you think you ... - 7/2/2009 12:36:11 PM
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OneOfHisJewels
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If at all possible, I think I would just have my wedding on a Friday...then we could have Saturday to ourselves, and still go to church on Sunday.
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/2/2009 12:54:07 PM
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AslansChild
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Must confess that I am not single but wanted to chime in. We were married on a Saturday and skipped church on Sunday as that was the get-away day for our honeymoon. Most weddings require a lot from the BRIDE and groom, after a day of being the main focus for as many people as possible, making the biggest commitment of your life and the prep leading up the last thing you should worry about is whether to go to church the next day or not. From my experience, the people who show up in church the morning after their wedding are trying to prove something about their spitituality. From my point of view our wedding was a combination of a celebration and worship service that has eclipsed any Sunday morning service I have ever been to. You should enjoy the extension of the wedding for as many days as possible just being with your new spouse. No need to cater to the church ladies ;)
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/2/2009 1:15:14 PM
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Moving this from Marriage to Singles.
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/2/2009 1:19:17 PM
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I would have wedding on Saturday, church on Sunday. No particular reason.
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/2/2009 1:42:20 PM
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Hmm...
I've not really ever pondered that before. Used to just assume we'd be on our honeymoon... and who knows what all we'd be doing other than the obvious?  {Yes, yes, I know that's not ALL we'd be doing!! lol  }
I wouldn't be opposed to going to church in whatever place we took our honeymoon trip. For example, I'd love to return to some of the historic places I've visited, like Williamsburg, VA, or Charleston, SC, or to go to another historic place (gotta love the original 13 colonies!!)... and go to one of the really, really old churches that still holds worship services and has a bona fide congregation (not merely a historic site to tour).
But maybe we wouldn't go on a big vacation type trip. Maybe we'd just stay not too far from home... we could still go to church, if that's what my hubby and I wanted to do... at our church or visit another one.
I think I'd be OK with going or not going.... following hubs's lead. 
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/2/2009 1:48:40 PM
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This is an interesting question which I now think is something that should be discussed earlier in the dating relationship.
I would strongly prefer not to go to church the day following my wedding. I'd prefer if we spend the day enjoying each other, and at the same time, really committing our marriage and whole future to the Lord in a more intimate way, meaning just the three of us and the scripture, without any distractions.
A person who is adamant about not missing church ever is probably a deal breaker for me. I can't imagine not being able to go camping, or visit relatives because we HAVE to be in church on Sunday. I don't believe that you can't worship God outside the four walls of a church.
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/2/2009 1:51:51 PM
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I would strongly prefer not to go to church the day following my wedding. I'd prefer if we spend the day enjoying each other, and at the same time, really committing our marriage and whole future to the Lord in a more intimate way, meaning just the three of us and the scripture, without any distractions.
If I can have MY  way, that's what God, my hubby, and I would do.
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A person who is adamant about not missing church ever is probably a deal breaker for me. I can't imagine not being able to go camping, or visit relatives because we HAVE to be in church on Sunday. I don't believe that you can't worship God outside the four walls of a church.
Girl, you bring up a good point to consider about being equally yoked with another Christian! I think areas like the one you describe are ones that are important to iron out a good deal before becoming engaged.
Onya, mate!!! 
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/2/2009 3:38:23 PM
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Girl, you bring up a good point to consider about being equally yoked with another Christian! I think areas like the one you describe are ones that are important to iron out a good deal before becoming engaged.
Onya, mate!!!
I've experience this in my family. I have a sister whose priority was being in church. If there were events on the same day, let's say Christmas dinner, and church service, she'd drop by at home for a few minutes, but her real celebration is done in church. She had the same attitude for every ocassion. A relative's birthday is always secondary to a church member's special ocassion.
So, I am very much against marrying a man who puts church first before family (emphasis on church and not God) . Insisting on going to church the day after your wedding night is a strong sign of this.
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/2/2009 3:46:53 PM
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The sabbath is a celebration of God. You don't need to be in a church building to have church. There's nothing prevent a newly wed couple having church just by themselves.
If I were married on Saturday the church building would probably not see me for at least a week.
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/2/2009 4:40:54 PM
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This thread is for singles to talk about what they want to do..there is already a thread for married people to discuss what they did HERE.
I was raised in a belief system that really treasured the Sabbath day, so I know many married on Sat, church on Sunday couples, and they were NOT trying to prove their spirituality.   It's just that the Sabbath was precious to them. But I don't want this thread to turn into a Sabbath day discussion, there is a OST for that.
That's fine. I've been single, then married, and I'm single again. Am I allowed to answer?
For me, I got married on Saturday and we skipped church on Sunday like Alsan's Child. Sometimes a Saturday wedding is your only choice, and allows the most people to come and celebrate with you.
It takes a LOT out of a bride to do a wedding, and if she is careful to take care of her energy levels so that she can properly appreciate her wedding day as a worship/witness day celebration and she and the groom enjoy their first night as a married couple, then the Sabbath WILL be a "day of rest" (which is what is commanded, not a "day of church").
I'm not making any judgments about those that do go to church on Sunday after a Saturday wedding, I think that's fine if they can and want to.
But I don't believe judgments should be made about those who don't, either.
It's really quite a practical matter in my mind, and certainly not salvific in the least.
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/2/2009 4:49:45 PM
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ORIGINAL: OneOfHisJewels
This thread is for singles to talk about what they want to do..there is already a thread for married people to discuss what they did HERE.
I was raised in a belief system that really treasured the Sabbath day, so I know many married on Sat, church on Sunday couples, and they were NOT trying to prove their spirituality. It's just that the Sabbath was precious to them. But I don't want this thread to turn into a Sabbath day discussion, there is a OST for that.
That's fine. I've been single, then married, and I'm single again. Am I allowed to answer?
Yes, you are allowed. This thread started out in Marriage but got moved to here, its right spot.
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/2/2009 5:18:35 PM
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If at all possible, I think I would just have my wedding on a Friday...then we could have Saturday to ourselves, and still go to church on Sunday.
I've not really thought about this. I don't think it matters to me if we go to church that first Sunday or not. I think I'd prefer that we spend time together in our own private worship service - where we can spend time with God in a place of our choosing and thank Him for bringing us together. Mostly, I'd want to spend the time bonding with him emotionally, spiritually, and physically - and probably just enjoying something beautiful (a nice mountain view or something like that) in the process.
But on the other hand, if we have some sort of a fight because we have too much togetherness time, maybe the breather of being in church might be a good thing :)
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/2/2009 6:39:25 PM
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I wouldn't care when I have it. I would still want to go to church on Sunday
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/5/2009 1:26:45 AM
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...maybe the compromise would be going to the evening service because i don't know if i'd want our first morning of married life rushing around getting ready for church after what i surmise will be quite a night ..hehe..hmm, i guess mr. awesomepants and i will have to discuss that when it comes time.
-reba.
 Cute post, Reba! And very good point about not rushing around. I'd never considered that, but I think I'd feel the same way. The honeymoon's supposed to be a vacation time to rest and enjoy spending time together away from the pressures of everyday life.
As others have said, I've always thought we'd be tired or in transit on Sunday morning. I know a lot of couples who spent their wedding night at a hotel in town and then left early the next morning to travel to their honeymoon destination, so there was no time to attend church that morning.
However, if we were already at our destination I think it would be nice to visit a church there and go to church officially as "Mr. and Mrs. ____." I wouldn't want to go to our own church, though, just so that we could have a little space.
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/5/2009 10:57:11 PM
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I think God would be just fine with me skipping church on my honeymoon.
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RE: For those of you who are single, what do you think ... - 7/6/2009 9:15:03 PM
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whatever kind of marriage she wants, I will support, encourage, embrace, I don't need anything special, I just need to know that it is going exactly the way she wanted it to go.
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