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ORIGINAL: herestoresmysoul

So my thoughts are that you cant help noticing an attractive woman, but you can control how long you look and what you say (or dont say). Also if you want to get married one day, you may as well start practising now to stop staring and keeping your mouth shut!!!

MARRIED TO A MILITARY PILOT PLEASE PRAY FOR OUR TROOPS!

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ORIGINAL: johnbegood
why is it that I can't stop

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ORIGINAL: thechristianpastor

I say if you are not married then you may look at attractive women, but if you are married it is a sin, the bible goes so far as to say that it is adultry, so this is not a good idea. However, I would check out her ring finger before checking her out because her husband may not be amused and would you want some man checking out your wife. We women do care if you are our husband or significant other, future husband or boyfriend if you look at other women and God said that if you look at a woman in lust that it is the same as sinning with her when you are with someone.

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ORIGINAL: johnbegood

Yes I'm a man

I want the help of women that's why I posted here I have a problem well I thinks it's a problem all though my Pastor says it's not he says that's the way men are wired and it's better than if I was checking out men and I shouldn't worry to much about it

Anyways my problem is that I can't stop looking at women I love to look at pretty woman sometimes I might even comment nothing dirty something like nice hair, I'm not trying to be a pig but I have to tell you that you look beautiful something like that....I'm not sure about this but I think women are ok with it because I'm an attractive male well people say above the normal attractive male I'm not trying to talk highly about my self I actually speak very negative about myself that's a whole different problem...I just want to know is what I'm doing wrong why is it that I can't stop I do try I say look away God doesn't like it, and for the most part it works give me some advice please

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ORIGINAL: johnbegood

Yes I'm a man

I want the help of women that's why I posted here I have a problem well I thinks it's a problem all though my Pastor says it's not he says that's the way men are wired and it's better than if I was checking out men and I shouldn't worry to much about it

Anyways my problem is that I can't stop looking at women I love to look at pretty woman sometimes I might even comment nothing dirty something like nice hair, I'm not trying to be a pig but I have to tell you that you look beautiful something like that....I'm not sure about this but I think women are ok with it because I'm an attractive male well people say above the normal attractive male I'm not trying to talk highly about my self I actually speak very negative about myself that's a whole different problem...I just want to know is what I'm doing wrong why is it that I can't stop I do try I say look away God doesn't like it, and for the most part it works give me some advice please

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ORIGINAL: BelleWeather

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ORIGINAL: johnbegood

Yes I'm a man

I want the help of women that's why I posted here I have a problem well I thinks it's a problem all though my Pastor says it's not he says that's the way men are wired and it's better than if I was checking out men and I shouldn't worry to much about it

Anyways my problem is that I can't stop looking at women I love to look at pretty woman sometimes I might even comment nothing dirty something like nice hair, I'm not trying to be a pig but I have to tell you that you look beautiful something like that....I'm not sure about this but I think women are ok with it because I'm an attractive male well people say above the normal attractive male I'm not trying to talk highly about my self I actually speak very negative about myself that's a whole different problem...I just want to know is what I'm doing wrong why is it that I can't stop I do try I say look away God doesn't like it, and for the most part it works give me some advice please

A casual look, and "Good Morning" is inoffensive, and can be pleasant, if done politely.

Staring, and making personal observations about my person are presumptuous, rude, and very bad manners. Behavior like that is not complimentary, to the contrary, it is insulting.

I don't care how attractive you think are, or how captivating I happen to be.

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ORIGINAL: johnbegood

Yes I'm a man

I want the help of women that's why I posted here I have a problem well I thinks it's a problem all though my Pastor says it's not he says that's the way men are wired and it's better than if I was checking out men and I shouldn't worry to much about it

Anyways my problem is that I can't stop looking at women I love to look at pretty woman sometimes I might even comment nothing dirty something like nice hair, I'm not trying to be a pig but I have to tell you that you look beautiful something like that....I'm not sure about this but I think women are ok with it because I'm an attractive male well people say above the normal attractive male I'm not trying to talk highly about my self I actually speak very negative about myself that's a whole different problem...I just want to know is what I'm doing wrong why is it that I can't stop I do try I say look away God doesn't like it, and for the most part it works give me some advice please

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ORIGINAL: herestoresmysoul

I think from you post that you arent married. if you were, your wife would almost certianly not want you to be always looking at attractive women and telling them how attractive they are or whatever it is. That would be very hurtful for her.
Most men are attracted to the way women look, but at the same time are not helpless to stop doing it, or at least not stare or make any comment. I guess a lot depends on who the woman is. If she is a girlfriend, it is appropriate to say nice things. if she is married or you dont really know her, then it isnt. She may get the worng impression if you keep complimentimng her. She may think you are wanting to go out with her or are flirting.
So my thoughts are that you cant help noticing an attractive woman, but you can control how long you look and what you say (or dont say). Also if you want to get married one day, you may as well start practising now to stop staring and keeping your mouth shut!!!
When you marry your wife should be your standard of beauty, and she wont usually appreciate you telling other women how attractive they are.

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ORIGINAL: tz3

I don't think there is anything wrong unless it makes the other person uncomfortable. Then it should be rained in some. There is this guy in my choir that is a lot like this. I was new to the group and thought he was hitting on me because no one else was doing this, but then again I had things going on in my life that made me more sensitive then I should have been, and that is my point your never going to know what the other person is going through at the time.

I wouldn't worry about it unless:

you don't look women in the eye when speaking to them
you overly compliment and wink to where she feels like your flirting with her
you give preferential treatment to someone who looks nice over someone who is plain or ugly

Then I would say you have some training to do; other wise just be yourself and if you do accidentally make someone uncomfortable then adjust and/or apologize but don't worry about it most likely it is not you it's them.

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I think that a large number of men give preferential treatment to women ahe are more physically attarctive.For examle they are more likely to stop at crossings to let them cross the road. More likely to give them jobs. More likely to favour them in many ways over women who are more 'normal'.Its sad and I wish they didint do it but they do.