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ppodmama -> ? 4 homeschooled child starting public school (10/24/2009 9:58:43 AM)

My 14 year old was homeschooled from 4 on. she started high school this year. How long did it take your child to adjust to the change and did you notice changes in your child?

My daughter is very crabby and has no patience since she started public school. We are thinking it is just pressure and adjustment and that the social end of school has her feeling a bit zapped at the end of the day making her patience thin.

We spoke to her about it and she says she doesn't notice the changes and she says nothing is wrong, we just notice her exasperation fuse has become very very short (it was short to begin with). We are trying to give her a lot of space to work this out for herself and she is a very responsible girl (getting a's and b's for grades)

I know she is not getting as much rest as she used to and she has always been a sleeper. She actually puts herself to bed at night before 9 most nights, but when she was homeschooled she even took naps sometimes in the afternoon right up until this year.

I am the first Christian in my family and the only one to homeschool. We are a very close family as well, so no issues like that are on the table.

Any info or advice would be so appreciated.
Thanks.



Ps103 -> RE: ? 4 homeschooled child starting public school (10/24/2009 12:18:50 PM)

Moving this from Home School Support to Public School Support.



manda59 -> RE: ? 4 homeschooled child starting public school (10/24/2009 12:48:08 PM)

Keep giving her space and time, let her adjust, she clearly does not want to talk about it, so I suggest you just make sure she's eating properly and healthily, and getting the right amount of rest.

It will take time for her body clock to adjust, it will take time for her to accommodate all the differences that the new arrangement brings. Try to keep your chats with her light and friendly, ask about any new friends she is making, show interest in them; also about her homework timetable. She may or may not need help organising her time so that assignments get done on and handed in on time.

Is she able to take time out to relax and get out and about at weekends?

FYI my children are 20yo and 16yo and have been in the State (your public) school system since they were just under 4 and a half. (I'm in the UK)



garsyt -> RE: ? 4 homeschooled child starting public school (10/24/2009 2:22:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ppodmama

My 14 year old was homeschooled from 4 on. she started high school this year. How long did it take your child to adjust to the change and did you notice changes in your child?

My daughter is very crabby and has no patience since she started public school. We are thinking it is just pressure and adjustment and that the social end of school has her feeling a bit zapped at the end of the day making her patience thin.

We spoke to her about it and she says she doesn't notice the changes and she says nothing is wrong, we just notice her exasperation fuse has become very very short (it was short to begin with). We are trying to give her a lot of space to work this out for herself and she is a very responsible girl (getting a's and b's for grades)

I know she is not getting as much rest as she used to and she has always been a sleeper. She actually puts herself to bed at night before 9 most nights, but when she was homeschooled she even took naps sometimes in the afternoon right up until this year.

I am the first Christian in my family and the only one to homeschool. We are a very close family as well, so no issues like that are on the table.

Any info or advice would be so appreciated.
Thanks.


School has been in session for at most 9 or 10 weeks right? Sometimes adjustments take some time, even for kids that have been in public school for a long time, especially when moving from one school to another. I know it did for my eldest ds when he went from middle school to high school.

My eldest was also homeschooled for a time, but went to public school in third grade.

As for the exasperation level. Is she making friends? Are there kids at school that she knows outside of school and has known for a few years? Or is she going into this situation cold - that is not knowing ANYONE? Is she having trouble adjusting to the workload? Is she having trouble with teachers?

And it simply could be hormone related, being that she's 14 and many early teens start dealing with those sorts of issues right about that age. (trust me - I've got an almost 12 year old dd that's about to drive me CRAZY).

My advice? Be patient with her. God's not finished with her yet. [;)] Don't allow her to become sassy or rude, but allow her time and space to express her frustration. High school is hard. MUCH harder than when you or I were there, that I can assure you! What they are doing as freshmen and sophomores now I don't remember doing til I was a jr. or sr.! Don't allow the lines of communication to be dropped!

Blessings,

Garsy



ppodmama -> RE: ? 4 homeschooled child starting public school (10/28/2009 10:19:31 PM)

Thanks everyone...just needed a bit of reassurance...It's almost like she's a toddler again....re-learning boundaries. I hope I'm up for this:)



locomom -> RE: ? 4 homeschooled child starting public school (11/7/2009 4:14:53 AM)

We homeschooled through high school. It was the same swing between mature and immature behavior. I had to go back to taking trips to the bathroom just to laugh.

Are you getting the "I can handle it myself. I'm not a little kid." attitude now. And then when things don't go right, your dearest child turn to you in frustration and blames you for not having it all work out magically for him or her. How dare you not make the magic happen for your sweetie![;)]



McGuinessMagee -> RE: ? 4 homeschooled child starting public school (11/21/2009 6:07:56 AM)

One of our children adjusted very quickly. One took over two years. It really does depend on the child and the school. If she's really not adjusting I would start exploring whether anything is happening at school which is making the adjustment harder for her.

Kylie[sm=silly.gif]



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